Christian girl dating a jewish boy
I was a "nice Jewish girl" looking to date a "nice Jewish boy" when I met him.
He was a nice secular non-Jew from Seattle whose religious identity was rooted in memories of hanging stockings on Christmas and eating chocolate on Easter.
It is the most deeply-engrained cultural difference between Jews and non-Jews.
There's a video put out by the Reform Movement of America, a real-life documentary depicting a series of group therapy sessions for intermarried couples, designed to help them deal with the unique issues of intermarriage.
We determined that no obstacle should prevent our union, and obstacles there were a-plenty as soon as our families learned our intention.'Child,' entreated my mother, who deep in her heart had always hoped that what she referred to as my superior intelligence, careful upbringing, talents, and attractiveness, would land me a husband well up in the social levels, ‘bethink yourself what this means.
Married to a Jew, you will be barred from certain circles.
Here we are then, Ben and I, a Jew and a German-American, married for four years, supremely happy, with a three-year-old son who has his father's quick brown eyes and my yellow hair.
I never expected it to be more than a summer fling, but things escalated quickly. "And I can't marry a non-Jew."I then explained the concept of a -something that would bring shame upon oneself, one's family, and the entire Jewish community.
On our fourth date I informed him in no uncertain terms, "This can't go anywhere.""Why? Based on my upbringing, I would feel guilty for betraying generations of Jewish martyrs who had died so that I could be free to be Jewish.
I loved my father dearly, respected his convictions even when we didn't always agree, and ascribed great importance to his opinions.
But I wasn't willing to break up with my boyfriend.